Goals Face the Fear
“Did you accomplish your goals today?” That is what the old man at the gym said to me.
That one statement changed my life forever. I could have been knocked over with a feather at that point. My response was literally “oh yeah!” Which is my typical response when I don’t know how to respond.
See I felt a little bad because I had a conversation with a small group of my friends and I was explaining to them the power of goal setting. I had this list of goals that was everything I wanted to be, do, and have… except one thing was missing: My goal to be skinny!
I planned everything out as far as how I was going to become wealthy. How much I needed to spend, what I needed to save, planned promotions, and even where I was going to live when the money was coming in. However, I never decided that I was going to lose weight. The reason I didn’t have this plan was because of one thing, FEAR. I was too afraid to set a goal that I could achieve in a short period of time because I was afraid I was going to fail at it.
You shouldn’t accomplish all of your goals!
Plans change and so does life, so you should expect that some of your goals change, but guess what? Some of them change in a better way. My goal when I first got started was to lose 30 lbs. I didn’t… I lost 50! Once I got to 30 I realized that wasn’t good enough and I needed to keep going. I could have easily stopped at 30, or even 20 and I would have been better than most people. But I had a real end result in mind. The real result I wanted a 32″ waist. See my 32″x 34″ pants didn’t fit anymore, so I needed to do something. Well, guess what, they fit now, and that is really what I wanted out of my goals.
My goal now is a certain % of body fat. It isn’t even a weight goal. You may ask yourself why? Because I want my muscle mass to increase while fat decreases.
My financial goals also change!
The “why’s” are still there. I want to give more, and I want my kids to not have to worry about paying for college, but the end goal changes and the how I plan to get there also changes. Markets are volatile and so is inflation. By the time my kids go to college it is expected to cost almost $100,000 for a bachelors degree. That is what some people say anyway. We don’t really know. It is a good possibility that it only costs $50,000.
How to Set Goals
Let’s face your fears and set your goals!
Goals should be everything you want to be do and have.
Take out a piece of paper (your thought sheet, also not made from stone because goals can change) and write down everything that you want to be do and have. (eg. Learn this, get this job, have this much saved, or have this car)
Next, organize this list. Don’t worry about the organization on the first list, just write write and write.
Make it read like and if-then statement. (I want to learn Italian, then I want to go to Italy not go to Italy then learn Italian).
Set a time line. (I will learn Italian this year so I can go to Italy in 2 years).
See how those goals are related? They are the same goal, and many times you will see that every goal you have is related. You might say you want to start this business so you can spend time with your kids and be financially free. So most people would put “financially free” at the top of their list. That should be closer to the bottom because we are ranking these in order of how close you are to achieving them, and also we want them to be in order so when we hit one we go to the next one.
Hope you get to tune in next time so you can see how to achieve your goals!
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