My whole life I have heard how expensive kids are. We say things like “it takes a village.” Truthfully, by no fault of your own, you have no idea how to raise your kids.
Home economics taught in school is a good way to demonize having children. We carry an egg around, or a bag of sugar. Then we are told if we break it, we fail. Because after having 2 kids I can tell you that is exactly the way raising a kid works. (If you didn’t detect the sarcasm read the article about avocados)
I am very pro-family. Not because I am a christian (although I am and it is a good reason), or because I don’t believe in birth control, but because I want to see the world full of people like me. I am a man and that is what we do… we build things, and a family is one of the things we build. You cannot leave a legacy without a family.
My paternal great grandparents, between two of them, have nearly 200 living relatives now due to their offspring. Talk about building something!
On to the steps!
Invest in your Children
Children aren’t expensive. New cars are expensive… the only way something becomes expensive is if value doesn’t exceed the price. If your children are expensive, that is because you are calling them worthless.
There is no value on your kids, so therefore there is no price that costs too much. Children are priceless, not expensive.
Teach your Children
My children are homeschooled to make you feel uncomfortable (sarcasm). When I tell people that, they always have a look on their face like ohhh… I didn’t know you were in a cult.
My children aren’t homeschooled for religious reasons. (Religion should first be taught at home anyway) They are homeschooled because I want them to learn.
Everyone says the same thing, “I would do that, but they don’t get the social aspects of school.” Learning is the only thing you are supposed to do at school. Judging by everyone’s Facebook posts on common core, how is that learning thing working out for you?
For the socially minded here is a fact for you… do you realize that 20% of male “public school” kids will go to jail by the time they are 23 years old? And you don’t think your kid has 4 friends?
Feed your Children
Not too much though. Seriously, childhood obesity is huge!!!! Okay, so that last sentence is a bit tacky. (get it? obesity… huge) We do have a problem in America with fat kids. The funny thing is kids learn that mostly from fat parents.
Then we teach our kids that it is in our genes to be fat. It isn’t in your genes. It is in your mouth, on your plate, and in your gut.
Be your Best
As I just stated, if you are fat your kids will be fat. Lead by example. I don’t drink alcohol. Because it would be very hypocritical of me to drink in front of my kids and not let them drink. It would also be insane of me to not expect them to do it as adults if they saw me do it their entire life.
Mind your Mouth
Your kids hear everything. They don’t listen to hardly any of it, but they hear it all. I am not saying never curse because your kids will do it (although that is a good idea to follow), but I am saying watch what you say. If you say things like kids are expensive, then your kids are going to think they are worthless.
Kids are smart, they know what you mean even when you don’t.
Tell your kid they are a good kid, tell them they are a smart kid, tell them they are a strong kid; because if you tell them that they will believe you.
Discipline your Child
I never understood grace until I had a kid. My kids drive me absolutely insane. Then I am reminded of the story of Adam and Eve. They were told not to do one thing, and they did it…
“If I was in the Garden of Eden things would be different.”
That is a lie, you don’t think as a kid your dad told you not to do something and you did it anyway?
This forum isn’t a debate on how to discipline your child, but you cannot let your kid run wild, or they will never respect you.
Don’t Lie to your Kids
I hate Santa… there I said it! I do love Christmas. It is so exciting watching my kids open the presents after we wake them up as early as possible. It is a look of pure excitement.
At what point does it become a lie. I have never told my kids “Santa is real” and I never will.
Enough about the fat man, but think about the lies you were told as a kid. Now think about all the misinformation or mistrust it caused in your life.
We lie to kids because it is easy. The message we then send is that it is easier to tell a lie than it is to tell the truth.
Again, our kids are much smarter than you think. So when we lie because it is easy, they will figure that message out quick.
At the end of the day… No Kid is perfect.
No parent is perfect either, so don’t try to pretend like your kid is.
Thanks for reading;