My last post discussed toxic relationships that we were not aware of… Next how do you get rid of a relationship you consider to be toxic?After reading my last post, one might think that I am ignoring the people around you. In this case I am not. However let’s start with our inanimate friends
Stopping Object Relationships
I don’t really watch much TV, however too much TV as with all things can become toxic.
Realize you have the problem! First step. Not from my book, but someone else’s.
The faster you realize that you do in fact have a relationship with your cell phone, DVR, or whatever device. That is when you realize you have the problem.
The solution is easy… turn them off as much as possible. I get the cell phone is your only means of communication, but turn it off when you get in the shower. You don’t need it there. You won’t use it there, so go ahead and turn it off.
Next turn it off the entire time you are getting ready. Build up to bedtime to wake up. When you purposefully avoid something, you will quickly realize you are spending less and less time with it.
Friendships are easy to destroy. Unless they are toxic. These are the easiest to keep around.
Ask yourself why you are ending this friendship? If you are ending a friendship because it is not good for you then you don’t have to suddenly have to become a friendship ending ninja.
Avoiding a person doesn’t make the situation any better. You need to be firm in your decision, but you also can’t just avoid someone. Because if that happens you are more likely to “relapse.”
If you said “til death do you part” then something HAS to change. I recommend being strong, and changing yourself first. In a long term relationship the key to changing someone is self-reflection. I don’t recommend being around someone that is going to beat you up.
However you did make a commitment. If the behavior that is making the relationship is not abusive, or life-threatening. Change yourself first. People tend to become their significant other. If you don’t believe me, look at old married couples. They dress the same. It is weird.
If your relationship is toxic, however not long term… ditch the loser. There is no sense in trying to change someone. You will be more likely to be the person that changes. (See statement above.)
Thanks for reading,