Going through psychology when I was in college, or psych as we called it then the professor told us about 2 types of stress.
These two types of stress were called Eustress (good) and Distress (bad).
Eu-stress would be something like a major life event (wedding, home purchase, job promotion, etc.)
Distress would be a major life event with a bad twist (divorce, foreclosure, being fired, etc.)
When I first heard about this I only had one thought… That’s it? Every life event would be in 2 categories AND they are both trying to kill me.
As I have mentioned in earlier posts, I am a fairly laid back person. I cope well with pressure. I don’t worry. Nothing really leaves me sleepless at night. I boast this from years of martial arts training, but it is probably a little more my raising (laid back parents) than anything else.
So you might be asking yourself “what is the point? I read the title… is this an article about eustress? Because if it is then I am stopping right here.”
Well before you tune me out I am going to tell you about someone.
I am a huge fan of TED, and she as well as her sister have both had the opportunity to do talks (one of my life long goals is to do one of these talks). Kelly is a health psychologist, and had been telling people for years that stress is a killer… Until TED!
We have all heard that stress is deadly. (somewhat true– read on for the WHOLE truth)
Stress is the leading cause of ulcers. (not true– h. pylori is)
What the heck is true about stress?
Alone it won’t kill you.
There it has been said, and you read it first here! So what does kill you? What is the big culprit?
Your crappy attitude.
If this were a text message you would probably get a lol with a semicolon parenthesis after that statement.
Kelly in her TED talk showed some shocking research, that the attitude of how you handle a situation impacts your life is WORSE (or better) on you than stress itself. In fact, the distress has very little to do the outcome.
So here is my recommendation… don’t fret about stress. Encourage it. Bring it on! If your attitude can change about every little thing that happens in your life it will make a huge difference.
I am embedding the video below of the talk, and I encourage each of you to watch it.
Thanks for reading,