Does complaining really have an affect on you? Have you ever met someone that complains about everything? I knew/know several people like that. Personally, I try to stay away from them, but often you can’t avoid them. There was a guy that I worked with that would literally complain about not having anything to complain about… it was the most amazing thing I have ever seen in my life.
So why do we do it? Because we learned it. I am a believer that everything you do you have learned. Complaining, in my opinion, is no different. The guy above… his parents were complainers. Rightfully so. Have you ever noticed that people that complain always have something to complain about?
Is this fact or is it just an anecdotal observation?
Your brain and complaining
Complaining actually releases feel-good chemicals in your brain, that in effect make bad things happen to complainers. That isn’t to say more bad things happen. What happens is your brain strives to make these feel-good chemicals again, so the next bad event that happens… BOOM! Then next thing you know, you are complaining about trivial things like the weather.
Meet the Hippocampus
No, the hippocampus isn’t a college for hippos. The hippocampus is a very small portion of your brain that is used for intelligent reasoning. Alzheimer’s disease actually shrinks the hippocampus. This is the reason people with the disease have trouble “gathering their thoughts.”
Here is the amazing part… Complaining also shrinks your hippocampus. Habitual complainers were studied by Standford University and their results showed that those who complain have hippocampus atrophy. Meaning their hippocampus is slowly withering away.
Stop the Complaining
Obviously, it is difficult to stop complaining. Almost every conversation that you have that lasts over one minute has a complaint in it. So what do you do?
To quote Michael Jackson “I am starting with the man in the mirror.”
Even though we tend to be social and share our complaints together… Only you can change you.
Thanks for reading,